By Consensus Therapy

CoThera

Say what you mean. Hear what they mean.

1. Start 2. Question 3. Compare 4. Connect

Start with one honest question

Are you mind-reading your partner?

Settling for imaginary conversations?

Meaning well but landing wrong?


Start with one honest question

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Start with one honest question

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How it works


CoThera walks you and your partner through a structured exchange designed to reduce guesswork, clarify meaning, and help each of you express what you actually mean.


  • Developed by Dr. Michael Ivanov, a licensed psychologist and developer of Consensus Therapy
  • Informed by research on relationship perception and communication
  • Private, structured, and self-guided
  • Designed for couples to use together

CoThera is currently free to use


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FAQ

CoThera is designed to support private, self-guided exchanges between invited participants. Please review the Privacy Policy for details.

No. CoThera is not an AI therapist or a psychotherapy service. It is a self-guided tool informed by Dr. Michael Ivanov’s research and the Consensus Therapy model. CoThera helps partners explore how each experiences the relationship, clarify misunderstood meanings, and build greater mutual understanding.

You can begin on your own, but CoThera is designed for two people to use together.

CoThera creates a private invite link that you can text or email.

Yes. CoThera can be used in close one-to-one relationships, although its structure was developed primarily with romantic partners in mind. When using it with a friend or family member, choose questions appropriate to that relationship.

CoThera is a guided relationship tool that helps people work through misunderstandings using a structured question-and-response process. Learn more about Consensus Therapy.

Yes. CoThera is currently free to use as we continue improving it.
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